Here are some steadfast rules to tackling modern dating like a true gentleman, because you need to save this dying breed.
Although lying is as common place as chewing gum, and as old as
time itself, don’t lie about anything on your online dating profile. We
have the tendency to fib, in general, and fluff our online dating
profiles, but beginning a relationship where lies are already present
means it is doomed from the start. The Internet can be a wild and crazy
place filled with information about yourself, available for the world to
see, meaning that it’s easy to get caught in a lie. The right person
will love you for who you are and it’s wrong to start off any
relationship with the assumption of a lie. It’s almost guaranteed it
will go nowhere, and as they say, the truth always comes out in the end.
Avoid the hurt and be true to yourself.
One of the most memorable and polite things you can do while dating,
be it planning the first date or calling them afterward (which we’ll get
to later), is using this ancient contraption called a phone — just make
sure you use the voice/speaking part of it. Calling instead of texting
is the right (and gentlemanly) thing to do. Girls may be put off
initially, but women will cherish this. So many men forget about the
power of their voice.
Dating in some weird way, feels ancient, especially with our
generation succumbing to what is coined hookup-culture, in which dating
exists in the form of hookups and sex, and then maybe if the sex is
great, it will eventually turn into a relationship. Traditionally, it is
the other way around. Getting to know someone is a very scary thing;
having sex is the easy part. Break the pattern and go on an actual date
(dinner, movies, etc.). This will absolutely make you stand out from the
pack and leave a lasting impression.
Please don’t do this. First dates are awkward and sometimes a little
alcohol can ease your nerves, but don’t overdo it. It’s not impressive
that you can drink like a fish. Limit your alcohol intake to two drinks
max.
Unless there is a really important call that you’re waiting for or
someone is about to go into labor (hopefully this has nothing directly
to do with you), put your phone away. If you must keep it out, let your
date know why. Nothing says rudeness or I’m-just-not-that-into-you like
texting other people or answering emails while on a date.
No matter what your preconceived notions of your date are, as well as
your expectations for after the date, be respectful and treat her like a
lady. Most, if not all, women want romance. Hold the door for her, let
her go first, and pull out her chair. Somewhere between the Internet
boom and our Twitter addiction, our manners seemed to drift into the
past. Make yourself stand out from the rest as a true gentleman.
Modern women are independent and strong and don’t need a man to
validate them in any way, but there is still something to be said about a
man taking care of that first bill. Call me old-fashioned, but going
dutch on a first date is a major turnoff. Understandably, things are
different today, and dating is expensive, but do your best to try and
cover the bill. Go somewhere where you can afford, even if it means just
going for coffee (and there is nothing wrong with that!). It’s the
traditionally gentlemanly thing to. Once in a relationship, working out
the bills becomes a little bit easier.
In this instance, if you went on a date and didn’t get home too late, you can
text her to tell her you had a nice time and ask her out again. Don’t
wait more than two days to call and don’t ignore text messages. We’re
all busy and have lives, but you are NEVER too busy to return a text
that takes approximately two seconds to type. Even if it turns out
you’re not interested, don’t be that guy that ignores people. Come on — you’re better than that!
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