Judge Me Not

By Emmanuel Abazu

I have a bad guy look or so I’ve been told and many times too. Whatever that means, I wouldn’t know. Sometimes, I go as far as asking some of the people that don’t really know me well, like some of my neighbors and colleagues and they are always like “Emmy, bad boy ni e joor. You look like that party freak, jasi kinda boy” and in my mind I go “mo daran o”. Most times, I try to argue with them but after a while I would notice it was a futile mission; they had formed an opinion about me without knowing me just by the way I look, the way I sometimes act like I don’t give a hoot about anything, the way I dress because I love to wear body hug dresses that show off my physique.  I know you’re doing the yimu thing but hey I’ve been told by many people so many times, so I love to flaunt my body whenever I feel like it.

Some even tell me they know I’m a bad guy from some of my pictures and some go as far as gossiping that I have numerous sugar mummies...lol. Those pictures are pictures revealing a little flesh (did I hear you say you want to see?  and I wonder if a guy can’t have pictures of himself that makes him feel good about his body once in a while especially days that are not so great. My body is not the point, the point is why do people tend to judge you from afar?

They take one look at you and they’ve concluded deep within them that this is what you are or who you are. I mean, is my picture supposed to be a determinant of how bad I am or the way I dress or by the way I joke with people? Why can’t people just take their time to meet you, get to know you before deciding what adjective they qualify you with? Some girls especially, assume you to be a ply boy because you’re showing a little skin.. I once had this girl on bbm that assumed me to be a very angry guy because of my personal messages and I couldn’t help but be astonished at how people can judge you when then they know so little about you.

Do not judge me, I might not be who you think I am. I’m a guy with so much love in my heart and I care a great deal about everything around me. I’m not some monster that actually gives attitude at every slight chance. I laugh a lot and I’m very jovial. I play with everyone around me regardless of your age or class. Why am I taking my time to stress this? (I know some of you don ask “how e take concern us”) I’m taking my time to write this because I’m tired of people’s condemnation about one particular thing or another.

I’m tired of people pointing accusing fingers when they don’t even know jack about you. I’m tired of people jumping into conclusions about the kind of life I live because of something as trivial as my personal message or Facebook status or tweet. I’m tired of people judging me. You see me in public keeping a straight face and you already deduce that I’ll be a proud guy. Have you ever thought if I had so much going on with me and I keep that straight face because it’s better than the tears I’d have been shedding? I know you’re already thinking “this guy should swerve joor, you only want to make excuses” and I’m thinking there goes the judgment again. Or because I have more female friends than the other sex and you already assume I must be a freak of some sort.  I love to party, I don't drink but dance till my feet aches. Is there anything wrong with that? I go to church for both mid-week programs and Sunday programs and you sneer and say “omo esu to n lo church”. How did you know I’m with the devil? The devil discussed that with you or what? I just don’t understand how you know some things about me that I don’t even know about myself.

Don’t judge me, it only diminishes my appeal in your eyes. Maybe my message is irrelevant to you or maybe you think I’m the one who needs to check myself, yes I agree to that albeit a little. Check yourself too. Why do you take one look at my dp and form those opinions about me? Why do you judge with that one thing you have heard about me? Why do you choose to dwell on my past and make it a sort of reference page for my present? Why are you so quick to calling me a bad guy? Is it because you prefer to live on an illusion of what I am than to truly take your time to study me? Maybe you’re right or maybe you’re not… He without sin should cast the first stone!!!

P.S: this is for every guy like me… Judged from afar because of some certain irrelevant factors… It doesn’t matter what they say, we are who we are not what they say we are!!