A Real Man's Creed

By Emmanuel Abazu

What a lot of men don't realise is that its actually the way they carry themselves around a lady that will determine the fate of their relationship with her, not neccessaily the things they gave or say to her. Your words maybe listening to but what does a more convincing job is your conduct. As far as I am concerned, there are relationship creeds that a real man shouldn't be found wanting in.

A lady informed me that she was ending her relationship with a guy that she once considered for marrige. When I sensed she couldn't say exactly why she was ending the relationship, I asked her the particular attitude of his that she did not like and she blurted, he doesn't like leaving whenever he visits my house. I have always had to remind him that its time to leave and he does so reluctantly.

I can understand where she is coming from. He has cheapered himself that he doesn't 'wow' her with his presence anymore. Do not let someone that you are not married to have so much of you that they get bored before the relationship even kicks off properly.

One way to bore another so fast is by always blessing them with your presence. If you are free, stay in your house and sleep, read my articles, spend time with other friends, watch movies or give your house a proper clean up.

I have never liked the idea of a guy frequenting a lady's house and even passing the night, a more respectable arrangement is when she does the visiting, even if its a boys quater that you are occuplying. If you must visit her, make it as rare as possible. Don't go camping in a lady's house at the slightest opportunity.

If marriage is far from your mind, do not lead a lady on just to get in between her legs. The hatred and bitterness that comes from such woman is unimaginable. Ladies don't get over the feeling of being used easily. An unforgiving element can spend her whole life plotting your downfall.

If you want to get intimate with a woman, ensure that she wants the act as much as you want it and make it clear that it doesn't guartantee a ring from you. Hurt her with the truth, she will appraciate you in the long run. Nothing reduces a man like exchanging words with a woman. Walk away from the scene, the silence remains a powerful tool in bringing an unreasonable womn to her knees. Nothing give mystrey (like silence) to a man, who would rther keep calm-in the face of a woman's rant. Infact, most woman prefer that you hit them rather that you hit them the silence treatment.

The headship of a man in a relationship is all encompassing. As much as possible, do not let your woman beome the breadwinner. But if for any reason, a need for economic adjustment arise for you to find your feet, still make effort to bring something to the table. Don't not let her become absolute breadwinner. Even your self-esteem will be touched except your a shameless man. Don't ever bring youself so low that a woman has to collect from other men to give you!

Thanks to Mr williams Ochendo, Ifeoma ibegbulam and Slyvester Peters for their contribution in this article, may the good Lord keep blessing and increasing you in every area of you life. Amen

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