I have a new teenage girlfriend but my older married lover threatens to kill herself if I dump her.
I am 27 years old. My new girlfriend is 19 and totally gorgeous. She is everything I ever wanted in a lover. She is always ready for sex and would see me every day if she could, but I have to keep seeing my other woman or she threatens me. She is 42 and married. We met at a restaurant. She looked really beautiful and I had no knowledge that she was married. We were just friends at first and then things went further when she suggested I come to her place when her husband traveled. We had sex on the sofa that day. I’ve been seeing her for two years now.
When I met my new girlfriend, I told my married lover to go back to her husband but she threatened to kill herself if I didn’t keep seeing her. I really worry she will commit suicide if she feels I have abandoned her. I feel trapped with this married woman. What do I do?
From Samuel, in Lagos.
Emmy’s Advice: Dear Samuel,
You can’t keep a relationship going just because of emotional blackmail. If your married lover is genuinely suicidal it will be because of issues long before she met you.
If you know the one you want is your new girlfriend, tell your married lover as kindly as you can that it has been wonderful but it’s over for you.
All threats of suicide should be taken seriously but don’t be drawn back into that adulterous relationship. Don’t tell her husband. But if she threatens you about committing suicide again, one thing you can do is this: find out the church/mosqueshe attends and report her to her spiritual director/priest/pastor. He will call her and talk to her. She will feel embarrassed by her priest/pastor or spiritual director and thank God that her husband is not aware of her activities. After that, she will leave you alone.
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