Lesbianism - Is it a Right Practice?

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Lesbianism is a much debated topic now-a-days. Orthodox minded people and religions often get furious on the thought of lesbianism as they believe that this practice is an attempt to rewrite all the conventional attitudes of people regarding sexual life.
A society which yet see women as a byproduct of men, can't tolerate the outspokenness of free thinking women who prove daring enough to live independent of men. When fighting with teeth and nails, have we ever tried to answer the question that, is lesbianism a right practice? Or is there any unnatural or abnormal element involved in lesbianism?

                         
                            
                     

How lesbianism is defined?

Lesbianism, in the most simplified form, is the homosexuality of women. A female person is called a lesbian when she expresses her sexual and romantic desires toward another female. By the laws of nature all the living creatures are born with the inborn instinct to mate with opposite sex.
But lesbianism is an exception to this law of nature; as a lesbian will generate no feelings of romance towards the opposite sex, but shows sexual feelings only to a same sex being. Today many countries have made lesbian relationships legal and even there takes place lesbian marriages in western countries. Today lesbianism is no more considered a taboo in modern societies, but only a slightly deviated way of thinking.

Causes of lesbianism

Lesbianism can be caused by both mental and physical reasons. Many a times a person develops lesbian traits at the early childhood itself. Certain physical conditions back lesbian mentality. Today, lesbianism is no more concerned a mental disorder. But it is proved that lesbianism is more a mental orientation than a physical disorientation. Psychology says that a great number of lesbians have developed homosexual desires as a regression to the earlier stages of development.

Social issues related with lesbianism

Though legally supported, lesbian couple often feel socially neglected and looked down upon. Society always takes its own time to change the deep rooted mentalities. The number of lesbian couples is increasing day by day as today people have all the freedom to identify their sexual orientation and select a lifestyle independently. The bulging issue associated with lesbianism is the increasing number of 'fatherless'babies. Lesbians, if they prefer to have a baby, have to either adopt or approach a sperm donor to mother a baby. These children are fated to grow as 'fatherless' kids.
Babies growing with lesbian parents will lack the awareness of healthy family relationships which he/she has to learn from the families. Usually, the marriage between a man and woman is not just to satisfy the sexual needs, but to accomplish the social needs of procreation and mental needs of sharing the love. But a lesbian union is always based on the sexual aspect only. A baby grown between lesbian parents has all the possibilities of lagging behind other kinds in mental growth and maturity.

Can lesbianism be treated?

Lesbianism is never a disorder to be treated and cured; it is just a sexual orientation. They are neither mentally, nor physically ill. There are certain therapies like reparative or conversion therapy that claim to have treatments to convert sexuality; though not proved by researches and not accepted by scientific society. The thought of a treatment emerges when we take lesbianism as a disorder. Lesbianism is a trait, may be, just as your liking for a particular food item.
But if you have misidentified your sexuality and became a lesbian, then proper counseling could help you to regain the right path. If somebody feels that she should be cured from lesbianism, then it is a clear sign that she is not a lesbian at all. The attitude of the people living around may make somebody to think about a suppression of the lesbian desires. It is important to admit the sexual orientation to lead a happy sexual life. Once admitted explore all the pleasure from it and live happily.